Adoption is

A beautiful poem written by Lynn Grubb by way of her post Paradox over at Lost Daughters. I think this is incredibly moving and honest. I wanted to share it here because it resonated so deep within the recesses of me. I found myself nodding in agreement and exhaling deeply. Thank you Lynn!

xo Two

Adoption is

 

a concept, a belief and an action

A lack of choice and being chosen

A legal solution to a spiritual problem

A spiritual solution to a legal problem

A loving choice and a thrusting upon

A nurturing touch yet a stealing away

it saved me; yet damaged me

Provided for me, yet took away from me

Blessed me yet cursed me

Gave me a name and took a name

It creates a chance for love to grow and a door for misunderstanding

It creates a family out of strangers and strangers out of family

It inspires and teaches and it wounds and damages

Adoption is

 

My friend and my enemy

A thorn in my side and my shining light

A rainbow and a gravestone

Acceptance and rejection

Truth and lies

Known and unknown

Love and hatred

a casting away and returning

Adoption is

 

Not my friend nor my enemy

Not the excuse or the cause

Not perfect or evil

Not the reason or the scapegoat

Not who I am or who I am not

Everything and nothing

copyright Lynn Grubb

(reproduced with permission)