"Sorry, KKEMERAIT, but tough as it is, the rights of people who give up children trump the rights of the children given up. I used to be for open adoption until a woman friend was 'visited' on Thanksgiving Day by a son she gave up while in college. She had never let her family know. She certainly did not tell the husband and children she went on to have. For this creature to have presumed his 'rights' were a trump card was the height of hubris. I recall to this day her saying she wished she'd aborted the pregnancy. Life is unfair. Adoptees should take a moment to consider this elementary fact and be glad for what they were given by people who did not have to give it to them at all."
Posted 10/25/2011, 6:06:47pm by
I stumbled across this comment from the NewYorker.com blog on an article about Steve Jobs and adoption this morning. Not the best way to start the day. Apparently we are "creatures" which I read as "not human" as in not having the same basic human rights as the non-adopted. According to this commenter, we should all just sit down, shut up and just be grateful?
"The rights of people who give up children trump the childrens rights who were given up"? (again HATE that word "children", if you haven't noticed Clodius, children grow up and become adults and we should be afforded the same rights as you), Life is unfair? Be glad?
While I understand the circumstance you are speaking of...the "surprise" visit on Thanksgiving day was probably not the best choice...but here's a News Flash, adoptees ARE humans (with less rights, but human none the less) and there is no manual in wanting what everyone else has freely and without a second thought. We do our best...in navigating others secrets and lies.
To this I say, Clodius...you clearly do not know of which you speak. You are one of the very reasons we stand up, speak loudly and fight for our rights. Our basic human right...you know the one, the one you take for granted...the one you feel is good for some but not ALL of the human race.