tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8205832393135177137.post1256498333040849175..comments2023-04-04T09:23:23.686-04:00Comments on Two Halves Whole: To Adoptive Parents...Two Halves Wholehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03850300746010588264noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8205832393135177137.post-80857982207486870042011-11-10T17:50:54.604-05:002011-11-10T17:50:54.604-05:00Too right! It's often fear that prevents liste...Too right! It's often fear that prevents listening and fear that causes the bullying and abusive behaviour towards adoptees who tell it like it is.Keep going all!!Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8205832393135177137.post-38913657430887700582011-11-10T13:24:09.428-05:002011-11-10T13:24:09.428-05:00Thanks for this. It got me thinking...
When my t...Thanks for this. It got me thinking...<br /><br />When my two raised kids were very small and would ask about their belly buttons, I would tell them that is where they were attached to mommy. Thinking about it now, I realize it was very important to me to let them know that we were connected even before they were born. Perhaps this was so important to me because I had lost my first born daughter to adoption when I was only 16. She and I were connected, too, for 9 months. She still has her belly button as proof of that. Not to mention her physical traits, many personality traits...and we are forever connected in a much deeper way. No one...no legal falsification of her identity...no relationship with adoptive family members...will ever change that! <br /><br />I wish more APs would follow the path of Nancy Verrier and recognize it is not about THEM...it is about the child they are raising or the adult they have raised.Broken Branchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533563968563392316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8205832393135177137.post-85228140725530440782011-11-10T12:40:05.694-05:002011-11-10T12:40:05.694-05:00Linda,
"...their child is and will always b...Linda, <br /><br />"...their child is and will always be connected to their first Mother..."<br /><br />This very well could be the absolute best definition of what adoption really is underneath it all.<br /><br />If AP's balk at that definition or can't handle what that really means as a lifelong issue/process or if they are thinking quietly in their heads "well, that may be true but not my adopted child", then they have no business adopting. It's the very core of adoption. Adoption is not for the squeamish or the weak heart.Two Halves Wholehttp://www.twohalveswhole.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8205832393135177137.post-67029202181504152142011-11-10T11:59:07.617-05:002011-11-10T11:59:07.617-05:00Bravo!Bravo!Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00274531213087340905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8205832393135177137.post-27535631089431046232011-11-10T11:33:45.399-05:002011-11-10T11:33:45.399-05:00Amen. The funny thing is that even the ap's wh...Amen. The funny thing is that even the ap's who DO get it and try to be advocates for adoptees are dismissed and belittled. It's mind boggling, really. <br /> <br />Take Nancy Verrier for example. I really think she is the most hated ap in the world, because she dared to tell the truth- that adoptees suffer a profound and life lasting trauma the day they lost their natural Mother. Ap's dont want to listen, because they cannot stand the idea that their child is and will always be connected to their first Mothers in a way they will never be. <br /> <br />Keep telling your story- the more of us who do, the better. If people get mad it's from fear and ignorance.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com